I know a red flag is boundary-stepping over sexual and physical boundaries. Because that’s called grooming. And that if I’m uncomfortable don’t give them grace to stop by themselves, stand your ground immediately and leave the situation. Always say no, and literally run away if I have to.

Another red flag is if they buy you gifts without you asking, and they start saying you owe them favors for these gifts you didn’t even ask for. It can escalate to many things like staying when they’re do something abusive because they say you owe them anything they state you do. Sex has been demanded of me this way when I refused to have sex. So leave at once if this starts.

Is there anything you would add to this?

  • HexaSnoot [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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    2 months ago

    If they treat spending time with you like it’s a favour rather than mutual fun, then get out of there.

    Yep, that’s happened to me. When I was younger one person intentionally did this as a buildup to demanding sex from me. When I refused, they acted extremely angry. After that incident would check in about if I had an income yet, even though they clearly did not care about me or see me as an actual person who was allowed to not have sex with them. They were almost certainly seeing if I had money they could pressure me to hand over to them.

    They’d never even paid for anything, I used coupons that paid for everything the day we hung out and they lashed out.