They’re a very old white person, and they will never stop watching race conspiracies in mainstream US news. So there’s no use in trying to change things right?
I wish I could sit at the dinner table with the rest of my partner’s family without this hyper-racist person sitting with us. I’ve once cried myself to sleep for three nights straight after a dinner. What this person said was bad enough that I would’ve preferred they called me a slur instead.
They specifically asked my partner if they were a insert my race-sympathizer. As if to be my race is to be the same as a Nazi, and that its weird to have sympathy for people of my race. No one counts my race as white, btw. My people also have some socialist history so they might automatically suspect communist relation with every insert my race person they meet. They read a Nazi magazine disguised as normal news, so I think they think communists are a threat worse than Nazis.
Oh I didn’t see your edit, so to the edit: idk about the hatred part but racists will commonly do carve-outs that’ll make individual poc they know “one of the good ones”. It doesn’t make it better. Your partner has a responsibility to handle this better, because it’s their family.
*sigh This label hurts deeper as I grow more aware of racism.
Actually, interestingly enough, my white partner is far more aware of racism than I am. So if they aren’t aware of something being racist, it’s an extra messed up situation.
Dang. And yeah actually, I had a related experience when I was in college, I made some ignorant comment about racism, a white friend said "you should look up what ‘institutional racism is’ ", I looked it up thinking “pssh, what does he know, he’s probably wron—— oh my fucking god this explains so much about my life, time to be very angry.”
I just looked up the topic of institutional racism. I had to stop after one PowerPoint slide because I’m so sad.
Have you read the lyrics to the song Chocolate Rain? In my head, I usually tie the topic of institutional racism to the African American experience through other’s words, like these. But I don’t usually tie the topic to my race. I think it’d be helpful to study a few facts at a time of what institutional racism is so I don’t have as much of a blind spot in recognizing racism towards me.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but yeah. It’s a sad reality to face.
Love be Chocolate Rain, I didn’t like how people made fun of it as “bad” or “silly”. A bit repetitive, but catchy, decent, poetic, and deep. Institutional racism affects all races. White Supremacy was wielded hardest against black people but it is applied viciously against other groups too
Repetitiveness can be used well, and I think he made perfect use of it.
When I was a child, I read a story with an American child and their immigrant parent with an accent in a US hospital. That the front desk was besically dismissing and shooing away the parent each time they ask where their xrays were. Then, hours later, the child asked in perfect English, and they handed the xrays shortly after. I forgot all about that story until I read that PowerPoint slide. I’m enormously sad over that.