Btw, this is really helping to reduce my PTSD symptoms. bear For example I’m seeing rules abusive people in my past have tried to set for me to follow. (Never confront them or theyll victimize you far worse, never resist their orders, always stay quiet about what theyre doing to you, etc…) Instead of getting hung up on those rules and my opinions on them, just see the the purpose of the rules. (The purpose of the rules in this case is for them to tightly control and victimize someone that will never leave or expose them. That is the whole story and you don’t need to storytell any further if you catch yourself flashing back.) If the purpose of their rules and your values don’t line up, drop them immediately.

Plenty of rules out there dont line up with our values, and not just abuse-related things. I’m new to examining things this way, and trying to widen my scope. What purpose do you feel you have as you do/look at things?

    • HexaSnoot [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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      9 days ago

      What seems new agey and meaningless? How does it seem that way?

      Edit: Thanks. I can see a lot of things in terms of rules, so that’s why I’m focusing on that. But learning beyond rules would also be amazing.

      • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        9 days ago

        specifically “doing things with purpose” sounds like some guru shit that doesn’t actually mean anything but seems profound if you don’t think about it very hard.

        “the purpose-driven life” is a rightwing religious book thing and self-help kinda stuff is frequently downstream of reactionary christian stuff so you gotta be wary…

        • HexaSnoot [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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          9 days ago

          specifically “doing things with purpose” sounds like some guru shit that doesn’t actually mean anything but seems profound if you don’t think about it very hard.

          Just because theres a hippy to right-wing pipeline, and gurus base things off a concept, it doesn’t mean the concept is entirely reduced to not really meaning anything. Cult leaders start out with actual shit all the time and steer it into bullshit.

          I think you’re thinking about it too hard. I’m talking about doing things with my own purpose in mind, and not reacting to the fear of other people’s reactions.

          Thanks for the warning I won’t be reading that.