I went through things like growing up underweight for a while and sneaking food that was withheld from me. Those things still affect me. Looking back, one of the worst parts of this was that my caretakers were not poor. We went on vacations around the world each year along with wealthy families(one of them was a millionare family) usually staying in impressive hotels. Yet I was somehow always under the impression that we were desolately poor. I remember a teacher making an embarrassing call in front of the entire class to my childhood caretakers to tell them I needed new clothes. They sold this myth to me that they could not possibly buy me many basic needs, and I believed it more than the proof of these vacations that we were actually well off.

Someone in my current life repeatedly told me I can heat up canned food instead of eating it straight from the can. The idea of taking the step to heat my canned food still feels forgein. If canned food prices weren’t through the roof now, I’d try to keep practicing what they told me.

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      Just busted the crotch in my jeans today. Although it wasn’t the side I mended, so maybe it’s how I move.

      I do most of what queermunist says, though I don’t double up the thread but instead I start and end it with some kind of mangled form of backstitching I do.

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      I use a little extra material for the patch so there’s some room to stretch, cut away the worn fabric on the pants themselves because it won’t be strong enough to hold a stitch without busting, double-up the thread so it’s a bit stronger, and then try to line my patch seams up with the factory seams on the pants since those are the strongest locations that tend to be away from areas where stretching or rubbing matter.

      Nothing more specific than that, I kind of just got a feel for it from hours and hours of sewing and resewing my mistakes when they did burst.

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          With the way I double up the thread it’s actually very convenient, when I reach the end of the stitch I have two threads I can knot together.

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            So I’m not disagreeing, I also bring the ends of the thread together to make a big loop them knot it. I just got tired of sewing and resting the same thing in short time frames, so when someone years ago suggested dental floss, I tried it, and it stayed. I think your environment will be more punishing, but of course you’re free to try it or not!

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              Yeah sounds like it would work pretty well since floss is definitely stronger than thread, I just never thought of it.