you’re not wrong but just adding on, discourse around the (very real and mostly gender neutral) loneliness epidemic has been so badly degraded by the incel co-optation that this framing doesn’t even examine that loneliness =/= romantic loneliness (at least, not exclusively). more and more people don’t even have one (1) close personal friend. let alone goddamn community! (which, fittingly, makes it much easier to find both friends and romantic partners).