My job has made me so used to calling people “sir” or “ma’am”, but wtf to I say to an NB?

      • @JustSo@hexbear.net nailed it:

        I think when you use one of those words that refers to an unbalanced power dynamic it can make people feel a variety of ways you don’t necessarily intend.

        The context I was talking about was as a customer, being called boss by someone in customer service, so much as I didn’t want there to be a power dynamic, there is one, and that’s what made it feel icky to me.

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      I’ve had co-workers who absolutely hated it.

      I think when you use one of those words that refers to an unbalanced power dynamic it can make people feel a variety of ways you don’t necessarily intend.

      I’m thinking in particular about a guy I worked with who might have felt it highlighted our age difference, or that he inferred I saw his behavior as domineering and “bossy,” or he might have been labor-pilled cuz if we all hate the bosses, it’s not a very endearing term to use.