honne and tatemae

In Japan, honne and tatemae are Japanese terms relating to a person’s feelings and outward behaviors. Honne refers to a person’s true feelings and desires (本音, hon’ne; “true sound”), and tatemae refers contrastingly to the behavior and opinions one displays in public (建前, tatemae; “built in front”, “façade”). This distinction began to be made in the post-war era.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honne_and_tatemae

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I was going to share that at Bluesky with the OP but then I saw this. Emphasis mine.

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Bluesky can be weird but in a very liberal, very bubble, very trivial un-c/slop-worthy way.