• Agent641@lemmy.world
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    Guide to picking up smart chicks:

    X Show dick pics

    ✓ Wrongly pronounce Saponification so she corrects you and you can ask more questions about her interests

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    submitting your wrinkly ball sac to a stranger on the Internet

    She designs bioreactors and doesn’t even want to see mine for reference smdh

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    Why does she need a boyfriend if she has so much pleasure listening to the sound of her own voice?

    Dick pics are cringe tho.

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    Why do men do this? Even when I was young and clueless I knew this would not work, and that also women talk to each other.

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      The goal isn’t what you assume it is. You’re projecting your own goals and concerns onto those men.

      My guess would be exhibitionism. They get sexual gratification from acting sexually towards women regardless of how those women feel about it. As for women talking to each other, that’s less of a risk on dating apps, and even irl it has never been decent at preventing sexual offenders from having plenty of victims.

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        I asked my man slut roommate (no shame, all sluts rock, all kind people rock) a while back, how he gets all these girls with this behavior?

        He said, “I just cast a wiiiiide net and the ones that respond are down”

        Beautiful and simple explanation. Just like he was, to clarify, above average beauty, and =< average smarts. Pretty good guy overall. I don’t recall he was a dick to rejection just moved along to the one that accepted.

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          But was he sending unsolicited dick pics or just saying hi? Because if it was the first one I got some news for you, and that news would be about him not being a good guy just because you didn’t have any problems.

          If he was just saying hi…why did you respond to a comment about specifically unsolicited dick pics?

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            So often the real thing is other men don’t know how objectifying and creepy their womanizing friends are, because they aren’t the target. They don’t see the behavior, often because they don’t want to, so its easy to ignore.

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              This is where I just don’t get it. Like, as a hevaily privileged dude, I just don’t see how you can watch something like this and not go “wow, that was wildly inappropriate.”

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            That was the perfect question to clarify the divide between okay or not, I can’t recall if they were unsolicited or not with certainty. I’m pretty sure they were not because I would’ve been upset and confronted him and I would probably remember the tension of the moment.

            I’m almost sure these were people he initiated conversation with already, with a, “damn girl you look good” type of thing.

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      this would not work

      You assume the goal is to actually try to date or fuck. It’s not. The goal is to intimidate and degrade, to make someone else uncomfortable. So viewed through that lens, it works.

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      I too wonder this sometimes. Than I realize a lot of men are clueless in general about the opposite sex.

      I think the motivation of a lot of people like this is to just have meaningless sex. Someone is not flashing their dick to a future spouse. Not many stories I have heard where it goes “Once I saw that dick pic, I knew your father was the one.”

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        Not many stories I have heard where it goes “Once I saw that dick pic, I knew your father was the one.”

        Romance is dead.

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          I still haven’t sent my wife a dick pic but I’m making her add it to our engagement story.

          Mostly because it would make people laugh.

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    Best response I’ve seen to unsolicited dick pics is responding with the previous unsolicited dick pick.

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      1. Screenshot it in case they keep harassing you
      2. Report them for sexual harassment
      3. Block them (or ignore if the app you’re using has that instead so they won’t know you did anything)

      That said, the unsolicited dick pics I’ve received have been more of a frustration because I stopped responding. In that scenario they want a reaction, any reaction.

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    Apart of that sending dick picks is dumb, her post sounds like classism at a full display. No matter that the capital is in education and not directly in money (but probably it is, too). I found this message pretty sad and upsetting. It’s like a millionaire bragging in front of a homeless.

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      It’s not classism to complain about stupid people doing stupid things. She’s not complaining about low class people

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        The whole post is about how she is educated and how imbelicle he is (even if he might act like one). I am not sure what country this is, but almost certainly her education entails that she is some upper, wealthy class. Does he looks like some posh class? If you don’t see it, maybe it’s time to go to your ophthalmologist.

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          Nah

          She just doesn’t want to see your D

          Drop it

          Also you can get higher education for free in Europe (except the UK). Stop thinking that the US is the centre of the world.

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            Why do you assume that I am from US or I care about it? Is my English so good? I am from Europe. Yeah, higher education is free but living in a large city is not. In practice, only rich parents’ kids can afford to focus on a higher education.

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              That’s BS, at least here in Germany we have a system called “Bafög” where kids whose parents don’t earn enough to support them through University get a pretty decent monthly stipend. So anyone who wants to get higher education has the opportunity to do so.

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                do you have a slightest idea that not everyone is from germany and have a “Bafög”??? that there are countries where the education is ‘free’ only theoretically?

                but maybe “that’s BS”, maybe i am wrong and the rest of the world is exactly like germany

                wow such an ignorance and belief that “you can do what you dream of” is beyond my fucking comprehension

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          “he” in this case could just as well be a trust-fund college bro … no mention of class at all …

          jumping to the conclusion that awful behavior correlates with lower socioeconomic class … that’s kinda … classist?

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      Nothing she wrote seems like classism to me. The way you put it, a lawyer should avoid mentioning he’s a lawyer as that would display he was educated and thus insulting people who couldn’t.

      She’s probably complaining with her friends and reflecting about what happens. In her work life she is a respected person who does important things which are recognised by her peers.

      In her datings she has to go over people who can not come up with a better idea than to send a dick pic. This is a terrible thing, but some people may get desperate and accept some of these inepts. She’s reminding herself that she’s doesn’t really need to have these kinds of interactions.

      Is there a classist message in there? I guess the main message is: I’m a smart person, I don’t need to put up with this. She does not insult those people as Poor’s or people who did not study. As far are we know people sending those pictures may be millionaires (and I wouldn’t be surprised).

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        I think people are taking issue with the way she uses some of the vocabulary to sound better than the dick shower. Now, she probably is better than the dick pic dude, but she is bragging a little by using some niche terminology.

        I have no doubt it is jarring to be a tissue bioengineer and not receive better courtship than a picture of an erect schlong. Where I think she may have offended is when she said the person couldn’t even pronounce saponification.

        In your example, I think a lawyer might be fine in and of itself, but less so if they said “you dummy, you don’t even know what caveat emptor means”

        Regardless, I’m only trying to see the opposing argument. I still would say that most of the fault is on dick pic, but the poster might have been a bit of a terminology-dropper to gain some clout.

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        Academia is rife with bigots. This is an example of Horseshoe Theory in real life. They’re pigeonholed into their narrow track in life that they haven’t spared much thought for other topics. Not all that different from someone who is uneducated and ignorant.

        They over-estimate their proficiency in other areas by assuming because they’ve studied hard at one thing, they must be good at anything. At best they know of the concepts of the -isms and repeat the right words when prompted to do so. But catch them in a moment such as this and all is revealed.

        The internet is historically like this on account of it leaning towards the academically privileged classes of the world. People conflate socially maligned behaviors with education and professional status.

        All you’ve done is reinforce that point. Because she is a scientist or because another person is a lawyer they are less deserving of this behavior??? As if a less privileged woman would be. You conveniently weaved your narrative around this. Education and class are inextricably linked.

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        lawyer should avoid mentioning he’s a lawyer as that would display he was educated and thus insulting people who couldn’t

        she’s spend the whole fucking post about bragging how educated she is and what fancy words and concept she knows

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      People love a moral reason to be racist, sexist or classist. Because what are you going to do? Most people are too fucking scared to call bullshit out when someone can just point at something slightly worse and claim your just giving a pass to that other thing.

      Naw fuck the dude sending dick pics. And fuck this cunt for being a uppied shit stain.

      Both people are terrible.

      Fuck most people including me. People fucking suck.

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    I have seen this before, it is a repost from years ago.

    I remember, because it was particullary irritating seeing a scientist harrassed.

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    What a shame, when there’s so many opportunities for an opening pun relating to “her bioreactor” or “engaging in heat dissipation”…

    Talk about low hanging fruit…

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    Meanwhile I try to get to know someone on an app who messaged me first and all I get are two word replies… Dating apps are trash.

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      🥵😮‍💨 I love a woman who can talk nerdy to me.

      Then again I’m incapable of sending a dick pick and wouldn’t if I could because I respect that brain mmmmmm brain.

      #totallynotazombie #smartwomenaresexy