They seem to think everything just comes easy, everything is obtainable. I was just reading a thread on reddit about a woman who screams non stop at her son and takes all her frustrations out on him and all of reddit are like “She needs to get therapy, for a long time, maybe years, maybe permanently.” Like, what the hell? Who on earth could even afford that? Do they all just have endless money? Even if you live in a country with socialised healthcare you normally have to spend ages on a waiting list for a short course of therapy. Who are all these millionaires who think everyone can just be in therapy permanently? Whenever anyone has a problem the reddit answer is always “Therapy, now!” With no thought at all about whether the person can access or pay for that.
I’ve noticed this with other things on reddit too. There was once a reddit thread where people were asking why poor people buy takeaway food and how they can’t be poor if they buy it. I spoke on there about how I’d been in a situation where I was living in a bedsit, had run out of money, only had a few pounds left. There was no money left on my gas or electric meter. I could either put my last few pounds on the meter, or I could buy food, but then with no gas or electric I wouldn’t be able to cook any food. So my only option was to buy some cheap ready cooked food like chips from the fish and chip shop. Some really rude redditors refused to believe this, saying no-one is ever in that situation. They are so dissociated from reality they really don’t even believe people can be so poor they have to choose between utilities or food.
I’ve see other threads where someone posts photos of a medical condition they have, asking what it could be. When told to go to the doctor they say they have no medical insurance, no money to pay, etc and the others are like “Just go, this could be serious.” Like OK, just materialise money out of thin air then. It’s like they think everyone actually has an emergency fund but just doesn’t want to dip into it. It makes me think there’s no hope for humanity, when so many people are like this, not even wanting to believe how poor other people are, there will never be enough appetite for change to actually change things.
Im using this thread as an excuse to post these 2 reddit comments that genuinely floored me with their stupidity
Part of it is organic, like the most annoying people from the suburbs flock to city subreddits and bring their nimby white supremacism to every issue.
Part of it is curated. Think of what the alternative would look like and you will find it’s every banned vaguely left subreddit and all the comments routinely purged from “front page” subreddits like r/worldnews. What remains is that reactionary liberal current.
reddit used to have a great catalogue of problems and solutions which satisfied the need that was previously fulfilled by expert forums, but now it’s all full of u/deleted threads on archived posts. right now it’s just a place to astroturf drama, boost and shill various projects, bitch about your “asshole” friends and goon. there is something to be said about how the social media platforms that are favored by the rich (like twitter and reddit) have far more impact than they should have, but im not gonna say it because it’s 5 am.
I always think it’s funny to check r/personalfinance and see nuggets of wisdom like “get a better paying job” and “have more money” and “save 6 months of your living expenses in case you want to switch jobs.” Occasionally you’ll also get people asking if their hundreds of thousands of savings is enough to consider retiring before they’re 70.
It’s a website for robots, pedophiles, and incel dipshits
When told to go to the doctor they say they have no medical insurance, no money to pay, etc and the others are like “Just go, this could be serious.” Like OK, just materialise money out of thin air then.
on this one in particular it’s worth riding out the harassment for debt collectors for 7 years or going through the formal bankruptcy process if it means you don’t die of something. the advice usually also comes with giving a fake name at an emergency room so they have a harder time finding you to try to collect on the bill you can’t pay.
They collect ID up front.
turning out my pockets “i don’t have one”
Reddit has slowly evolved into the online country club of the west’s top 20%
Basement-dwelling trust fund teenagers who confused their daddy’s money for social skills and personality
The countless flunkies of actual tech lords who make $200,000 sitting on their ass all day long brainstorming new ways to enslave the working class, so they can get noticed by their boss
And of course literal feds who suffer from the hilarious delusion that reddit somehow represents an accurate cross-section of the overall populace, basically selling poorly made agitprop and undercooked psyop schemes to rich McMansion schmucks who already agree with them
There was never a time when this wasn’t true.
10 years ago Reddit went a little more mainstream (largely because of the 2016 race) but the mass bans in 2020 brought Reddit back into firm country club status
More like the entire world. Most Latin Americans on that site are the privileged few living in the wealthiest areas of their countries.
No that’s Instagram. Reddit is for the top middle tech sector
Love to see a discussion on there about how no one could survive on the wage I’m currently making. Like, yeah I guess if I was spending thousands on computer parts or funko pops or whatever the fuck redditors spend money on.
I’ve learned that often when people speak this way, they are expressing something different but don’t know how to do so.
“Nobody can survive on X$ per day” is often a way of expressing how unimaginable the situation is to that person, and that they don’t think anyone should have to live like that.
Remember dating someone many years ago who couldn’t wrap their head around my grocery budget that was 30% of what they spent a month.
Plus all of reddit pretends that normal life frustrations and setbacks are trauma that requires therapy. It’s a site full of shills for big therapy. Who really needs a 20-something with a liberal arts BA trying to tell them how to navigate life? That’s insane.
Therapy isn’t strictly for trauma. It is also a space to process, where you can vent and speak freely and be heard by somebody who is trained to give strictly constructive input that gets you to a healthier headspace. Especially in today’s atomized world where so few of us have strong emotional safety nets, it is a wonderful thing that most people would benefit from.
People don’t listen. I was dedicated enough to keep accessing low-income based therapy for a quarter century, put up with bad therapists who gave bad diagnoses until I couldn’t take them anymore, searched and read when I didn’t, sat with the bad feelings, acknowledged my part in my wounding and toxicity, forgave myself and others (that doesn’t mean they get back in to do it again – when you turn the other cheek, you look a different direction), and took control of my harmful and ruminating thoughts, corrected negative self-talk, “Mind-Reading,” accepted other people’s opinions of me are not my business.
That’s probably harder to do when you’re shut-in. But researching online isn’t. And it’s not a McDonald’s solution, either. It takes dedication, empathy, compassion, along with shadow work on rage, helplessness, escapism, and anything else that looks outward, rather than inward. I also had to learn when to stop venting; I mean when it only wound up my negative emotions and physical symptoms, like headache, heart palpitations, along with rage, depression, suicidal ideation. I colored, journaled, sang a lot. I cried a lot. I sat with myself and my shame, wanting to fit in and not, desperation and allowed a set time, then found something else to do with my energy consuming, pervasive thoughts. And I had to give each modal a fair chance (six months or so) to actually see if any incremental changes were enough, until I found the model that worked for me. So this may not work for everyone, but six months compared to the time I invested in staying sick and getting sicker was nothing. I was worth it.
I agree completely, and I’m happy you’ve found ways to cope and process that work for you. I wanted to push back some on the original comment because of the ways in which this modality did work for me around stuff that’s not strictly trauma. Funnily enough, a lot of the skills that work for you are similar to what my therapist gave to me years ago. But therapists are people, with differing approaches and opinions, and I know that institution has plenty of shortcomings despite the good I see in it. Anyway I appreciate your perspective
I hear you. No therapist ever gave that to me. It started when a “playa” called me out on something (he was still trying to gaslight me) that prompted a recall of a term I hadn’t heard since college (uni): “attachment theory.” I looked at that and my healing rapidly accelerated.
that sounds nice, i have never gotten constructive input from a therapist.
Yeah it can be hit or miss, it’s a flawed system for sure. I just see more good in the process than bad, in my vicinity. Sorry you’ve had the opposite experience
I used to think that. Then I started trying and sticking with it for six months.
i’ve had 6+ monthly sessions with therapists, the duration doesn’t seem to make a difference. one was at least honest and eventually said they couldn’t help me
I said I had bad therapists, no money for low cost and did my own therapy.
Reddit is full of ignorant, privileged morons who think that because it doesn’t happen to them it couldn’t possibly happen to anyone else. They bury their heads so far in the sand it’s a wonder they can even breathe.
i do remember some people on pc building subreddits suggesting only ridiculously expensive parts because everyone can just save up for a little while.
i recall one time where someone was confused as to why people would go for the lower tier of a processor line because it was “just $50 cheaper”
It’s so cringe. They are literally paying for like 3 frames per second that they won’t notice. I can’t imagine having enough money to be that stupid
and the only difference between them would be some imaginary number like 0.0001 GHz
yeah lmfao. when i was doing research to build my pc i ended up getting the impression that you had to spend a loooot of money to get something at least decent because of these types of comments, so i was really surprised when i frankensteined a computer out of second-hand early 2010s parts that was able to do literally everything i wanted without problems for a bit more than the price of a shitty laptop. it was my daily driver for years.
i know that if i were to post about it on reddit i would get shit on so bad for not having spent two nonillion dollars on colored lights for my peripheral vision to enjoy.
When I was on Reddit I’d frequent the budget PC spaces and they were generally free from that. The lowspecgamer subreddit was always a joy, people would help one another run software on wayyy underspecced stuff no matter the workarounds it required
r/communism101 pushed me to the left. That’s… That’s the only good thing that site ever did for me.
Stormfront is one of the most astroturfed places out there. Most “people” posting are bots imitating a smug liberal, the therapy thing for example is the nth type of liberalism. The rest are larping to imitate the bots. Both outputs feed into each other, to the point they are all abominations, with only a vague residual resemblance to a flesh and blood person.
Lucky for us, Reddit is not the general population, even if it is distressingly over-represented therein. Also a portion of the most ignorant ones are literally teenagers.
I find people in general are like that though. Very judgmental of anyone who’s struggling, always assuming if you aren’t doing well it’s your own fault for not trying hard enough. Many of the people on reddit who say things like this are middle aged too.
Like I said, it’s distressingly over-represented in the general population, but it still is not the same as the general population, where there are lots of things to have grievances with in terms of people’s social attitudes but a noticeably smaller number of people are openly advocating for banishing a woman to the shadow realm for having an argument in a grocery store.
I wouldn’t equate my experience with yours (I’ve read a number of your posts), but I’m also frequently someone who visibly “isn’t doing well” as you put it, and lots of people react with at least implicit contempt, but I would not remotely compare how most of them or the much kinder individuals behave to how redditors are just a few steps shy of open eugenicism. You’ve probably seen a lot more people be vile than I have and it’s horrible that society is like that right now, I just think a lot of people aren’t like that. This is something with a lot of variance by location too, of course.
Yeah, you see this about literally every single hobby, politic, advice forum, etc. Even the treatlords are like “you need to cut down on starbucks so you can buy a switch 2”. They’re not even telling people to save/invest/etc. in a broadly “responsible” sense, they’re being judgmental about how you buy one treat over another that they don’t approve of. I guess a lot of them are medium/high-income single males or DINK relationships or something. I saw that Texas woman running for political office being posted here was a sex therapist and she charges $200 a session or something. $200 for I’m assuming 1 hour would have to permanently fix my shit or last for like 2+ years for me to afford any kind of optional therapy.
most hobby subs eventually turn into “look at my toy collection that’s probably costs more than your yearly wage” or nerds trying to impress each other with projects they made with their BARE HANDS (plus thousands of dollars worth of equipment).
well most hobbies involve collecting, labor or learning and you can’t exactly show off learning in a single image and title.
That, or they turn into this.
I have no idea whats going on here or what it has to do with tamagotchi. Why are these redditors writing rape fantasies in the comments?
I’m going to pretend all of that was an elaborate shit post orchestrated by the CIA for the purpose of preventing people from stealing pens.
Because I don’t want weird pseudo nightmares tonight.
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Wow $200 once a week would be over $10K a year. Some people are surviving off less than that but say you can’t afford therapy and redditors are like “You need to get your priorities in order. Cut down on unnecessary spending.” Some of us already have no unnecessary spending as we can’t afford it!
