Even worse idk much about codeswitching.
I can tell friends who are girls “I love you” and they take it as friendly. But guys can’t hear this without thinking he’s laid claim to a romantic and/or sexual feelings?
If I reject a girl asking me out with the attitude of a bubbly girl talking to another bubbly girl at a party, and say “I have a bf. But you’re a babe!, You can get another babe!” She’d totally be friendly back about it… But once I said this to a guy who asked me out, and he proceeded to ask me for my number 4 times in less than 10 seconds.
Shit like this puts me in fight or flight mode. I have very little awareness of how or why I have to codeswitch between men and women. My skin is crawling nearly everytime a friend points out to me in retrospect that a guy was actually flirting with me after my only intention was being friends or a friendly neighbor. Yikes. I want to go back in time and yell “Fuck you stop being a creep!” (Ofc, they’d be too creepy to understand why I would say that.)
That said, I love my bf because his fem side makes him chill and understanding if a girl talks to him like he’s another girl. I’m pretty quiet and mostly talk to him, and I have no guy friends. So I’m not learning codeswitching skills by watching him. How do you codeswitch and why do you codeswitch in the exact way(s) you do? I barely go outside, and I’m angry at guys everyday over this over past events I’m creeped out by.
They might mean to say something more like alienated from human interaction/their own emotions. Which is done by men to themselves and other men but it’s still done.
Yeah, but even stuff like never eating vegetables is patriarchy. So, we don’t know how to mend our clothes our wash our ass. Getting out of doing luandry is not worth it.
i thought that was white people cooking and sensory issues
I dunno, most dudes I met in South America were the same. Big on meat.
And also women, to be fair. We are all products of our social conditioning. Men, women, queer folks, all uphold patriarchy to the extent they are raised by/in it, until they do the work to unlearn in.