• cally [he/they]@pawb.social
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    death is inevitable. means i can just enjoy life without worrying about truly permanent consequences (in case there are permanent consequences, i’ll just deal with them later)

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    “You don’t have to live your life like everyone else if you don’t want to.”

    Thanks, 30-year-old me! 🥰

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    4 days ago

    I am not going to have any meaningful impact on this world, so why bother giving it my all? Just take every day as it comes because in the end it doesn’t matter.

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      I think of this often as it relates to the larger globe as a whole. Like, let it go and just be. Very freeing.

      But I can have an impact on your world or their world. On an individual level we can have huge impact on each other. Something kind I say to a stranger may be the thing they carry with them through their next hard times. Just like all the things that I carry with me that the giver has no idea about.

      This works for good and bad, btw, so I focus on how I can give it my all to the people in my neighborhood and have faith that the ripple effect from that will radiate outwards and onwards. Keeps me going.

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    4 days ago

    Not a single fact, but reading about science and history makes me feel better about the state of the world whenever I’m feeling anxious.

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    4 days ago

    Most nonverbal cues vary wildly between people and situations, which makes them useless when applied to strangers. Only focusing on the obvious ones is worth the time.

    Some obvious ones:

    • walking away to end a conversation
    • stepping back (wants space)
    • looking away and not responding (wants to be left alone)

    Some inconsistent ones I frequently hear stated as facts

    • crossing arms is being defensive (they could just be cold!)
    • looking away, but still talking, is showing disinterest (they might have difficulty with maintaining eye contact)
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      Years ago I read something online about “target fixation” which can occur when walking past someone. It’s basically that thing when you lock eyes with someone walking towards you and neither of you can decide which way to go?

      Anyway the thing I read said just look past the person, like just focus behind them and you can usually avoid this weird awkwardness. I’ve found it totally works!

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        There are tons of cues that work as long as they are about what the person wants to do and not about how they are feeling or what led up to the cue.

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    4 days ago

    This might not apply to people who are not Autistic or somewhat neurodivergent but… my therapist literally just pointed out to me a few weeks ago that I have Alexithymia (emotional blindness)

    I have been much more in tune with my emotions afterwards and realized I was actually quite satisfied/content with life a lot of the times, it’s just that way too often I would not have known I was happy. So I guess if anyone’s also neurodivergent in some way it might be a good thing to look into

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    I still to this day think about the opening quote to this Watsky song , "Nothing matters, so it doesn’t matter if nothing matters. And while you be, be true. And if you won’t, fuck you. "

    Just thinking about that quote during times of stress eases my mind a little bit. Basically just a little more fancy version of “Why so serious? It ain’t that deep.” Lol

    • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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      Occam’s razor isn’t really a fact, it’s just a reasoning strategy. It doesn’t claim that the simplest explanation is true, just that when choosing between competing explanations that make identical predictions, the one that makes the fewest assumptions is preferable. But sometimes those additional assumptions are true, sometimes the simplest explanation is not the correct one, in which case Occam’s razor in fact takes you further from the truth.

      Still a very useful principle, but I wouldn’t really call it a fact.

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    4 days ago

    From my favorite comic strip of all time: (i.e., the legendary “Pogo”) ❤️

    “Don’t take life so serious, son, it ain’t no-how permanent.”