Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I’m in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I’m not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don’t feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I’m less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don’t want to waste someone else’s time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.
that sounds like a lot to me, but i haven’t spoken to anyone outside of a workplace in years
I think the spaces you are in make a big difference for this, yeah. It doesn’t really feel like a lot to me compared to some people I know, but maybe it is above average, I’m not sure. Almost none of that flirting actually went anywhere, for what it’s worth.
I go out a fair amount, usually to one bar for Karaoke and I get hit on and/or flirt with folks pretty often. It definitely depends on the setting and familiarity with those involved.