Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I’m in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I’m not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don’t feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I’m less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don’t want to waste someone else’s time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.
This is a good question. I don’t want to lie about anything. I wear a ring, and if asked I will say (and usually gush). That said, here’s what happens: I don’t ever approach a woman with the intention of flirting. If I want to converse with someone at the bar I’ll invariably mention my partner pretty quickly to make it clear that I’m not hitting on her. I feel differently if I’m approached. I find it very flattering, and I want to enjoy that feeling for a few minutes.
All good in my opinion, we all are humans and have the flattering and not so flattering features of our species.