Sorry for the clickbait title. Have a blurry picture of a cat as an apology.

But as someone who does NSFW art for a living, talking to a client who reads and writes at the level of a 12 year old (and shows the same level of ignorance about the world outside their country) makes me really uncomfortable. Technically they’re a legal adult, but I feel like I’m talking to a child.

I like to be friendly and pleasant with clients, but when the conversation feels like I’m explaining very basic concepts like how weather or seasons work in other countries, or how an 8 hour drive isn’t shorter because we use kilometers instead of miles, it just feels wrong when paired with the adult artwork I’m also drawing for them.

Like, legally it’s fine, but it does make me wonder if it is ok to draw NSFW artwork for someone who doesn’t really feel like an adult intellectually.

Also #notallamericans, but I’m sure Americans on here know full well what I’m talking about, and have to deal with it a lot more frequently than I do.

EDIT: This is less supposed to be “Americans dumb” and more like “Some Americans seem to have the knowledge base of a child and that makes it hard to work with them in an adult context.” I’m not just trying to start an America bashing thread here, I’m more venting about a very specific problem where I have to create adult art for adults who have the writing style and comprehension levels of children.

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    Americans do not value knowledge. The purpose of schools is to pass tests. Learning is something you do if you have to pass a test. Learning for learning’s own sake is weird and gay.

    Universities are shops where you buy access to jobs. Any degree a fifth-grader cannot directly map to a job is useles as well as weird and gay.

    If you are a real masculine manly man you don’t need to go to college and get a useless degree. You just need to wear a hard hat and stay away from anything that’s weird or gay. If you want to be a superman of businesses entrepreneurship and innovation you should go to college only to drop out as a flex. All the cool billionaires whose careers you are totally able to emulated without having obscene generational wealth dropped out because they were too cool for school. Staying in school to get a degree is weird and gay.

    From infancy you have been brought up to be a consumer. When Jesus came riding down from heaven on a bald eagle and handed the founding fathers the stone tablets with the declaration of independence and the constitution, the first and most important right afforded to you as an American was the right to consume without friction. You should have access to exactly as many easily digestible sugary treats as you want. Demanding effort of you is a violation of your constitutional rights. Holding you accountable for saying nonsense is cruel and unusual punishment. Putting in the work is weird and gay.

    In the marketplace of ideas the client is always right. You might think the earth is round, I might think the earth is flat. I have the right to have my opinion and my opinion can be just as good as yours and we are many people who are sick and tired of being looked down on by the elites just for thinking differently and if you tell me I’m wrong then you are being the asshole. Actually having expertise on anything outside of pop culture trivia is weird and gay.

    The average American can’t read on a sixth grade level. They think Big Ben is the capital of Europe. They get genuinely confused by learning that American laws do not apply in China. But at least they are not weird and gay.

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      I had an assignment in my geography class where they were assigning people continents and told them to find the flags of those continents and what language they spoke. When I explained there were many flags in Asia, they told to just pick the dominant one. Y’know, the one. It was a group project, and I took over and made sure we did at least a bunch of Asian countries. I got India, China, Japan, South Korea (chud me didn’t think we even could research DPRK) Vietnam, Russia, and I think some Middle Eastern countries. But yeah, it was a bad assignment. In the teacher’s defense, she was an elementary school keyboarding teacher forced to teach high school geography. It was an easy class as she had no idea what she was teaching.

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        “Find some flags and languages of X continent” is high school level in America? And somehow they mangle it to become “find the flag and the language of X continent”? And they let elementary school teachers teach high school?

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          As far as I know if you’ve got a bachelors degree in pretty much anything you can be a teacher. The teaching license you get to become a first grade teacher is the same as the one you get to become a high school teacher.

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            The rules change state to state because there is not, and never has been, a federal department for regulating education. The only thing the department of education has ever really done year to year is hand out grants. It gates access to federal money, but they do not broadly manage what qualifies as a teacher, that is left up to the states, same with curriculum.

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    or how an 8 hour drive isn’t shorter because we use kilometers instead of miles

    No it’s actually longer because there are more kilometres than miles so you have to travel further in kms than you would in miles, so it takes more time

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    I do think it’s a shining embodiment of capitalism, a lot of Americans I’ve met are exceptionally gregarious and at the same time being extremely resistant to budging their mind. I don’t see much of a creative drive usually, it’s mostly about consuming stuff and discussing how you feel about things. There isn’t much of a material incentive to learn, so people don’t…

    Conversation also serves as a form of commodity, networking, you speak because you want something not because of the speech itself. You don’t want to offend people, because it ruins your potential business opportunities - so it’s best to keep the conversation shallow and simplistic. Over time this has become a subconscious feature of the culture itself where being anti-intellectual is the norm.

    It conveniently also makes it much easier to control people, because the assumption is that if you’re an important looking person with a big crowd, in front of a podium, well you must know what you’re talking about.

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    It wouldn’t be so bad if these people were in the least bit interested in bettering themselves in any way

    But no, so many, so deeply incurious as to declare themselves above all reproach when all they know is nothing

    Like, how the fuck do you live to be my age and have no desire to meet new people, go to new places and interact with new ideas?

    Absolutely busted society

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      Incurious is the best way to describe it. They’ll happily ask me questions, but they’ve never bothered to just google it or anything themselves. Like they can’t imagine trying to learn anything themselves, that they’re just comfortable in their ignorance.

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        To counter this, there are people, such as myself, that would rather ask another human being rather than just search a topic on google to help generate conversation and create camaraderie.

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          That’s true, I have had plenty of interesting conversations where people were genuinely curious and interested, but this is more like a child asking about the world rather than discussing the idea with another adult, it’s kind of hard to explain, I’m not sure I described the problem too well in the post, it’s not really supposed to be “Americans dumb” and more like “Some Americans seem to have the knowledge base of a child and that makes it hard to work with them in an adult context.”

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        I’ll second this. On the political side of things, I find most americans have a sort of ramshackle, built from first principles, materialist and class based understanding… but only of domestic politics. All that falls away as soon as you talk about literally anywhere else on the globe.

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      It wouldn’t be so bad if these people were in the least bit interested in bettering themselves in any way

      i’m too tired boss

      Like, how the fuck do you live to be my age and have no desire to meet new people, go to new places and interact with new ideas?

      hogs, covid; covid, time, money; they think FDR-ism is a new idea

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      And people call me self-flagellant when I say we cannot ever be integrated into a truly proletarian society and the best outcome is we get placed out of the way where no more harm can be done. Like no this is extremely easy analysis.

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    It’s a little misanthropic of me but I do genuinely believe most people aren’t cut out for critical thinking and it really highlights the need for a vanguard party

    • Legit need for (re)education. I feel that often the framework isn’t there for critical thinking because it requires consideration of things outside of the self. And the rugged individualism baked into the culture triggers an instinct to withdraw in shame (or go on the defensive) from new concepts rather than accepting one’s understanding might not be perfect, and acknowledging the need for growth.

      Further still is the competitive mentality and need for domination; ie there is no need to engage with the global proletariat as they’re our competitors for finite resources and we’re obviously superior.

      Then there’s trauma baked into “not being good at school” because of pedagogy being punitive rather than liberating; eg better to be insular, believe oneself “dumb” and reject learning wholesale to avoid uncomfortable growth rather than acknowledging that everyone learns differently and seeing it as a collective activity where our strengths lift others.

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        I think to some degree its a social thing but I think no matter what critical thinking will slide off of a certain percentage of people for a wide variety of reasons, some more understandable than others. I kinda think even in a good social environment that percentage will be surprisingly high.

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    i love to hate on americans but americans are not particularly dumb or ignorant, they are more educated than most countries, it’s just that they are just “too rich” (have a strong currency) compared to their actual material condition and education. a homeschooled construction worker in bumfuck Louisiana can easily pay for an internet subscription and 20 bucks for a commission but a comparable person somewhere in asia or even europe probably doesn’t even have a smartphone and most certainly doesn’t speak english.

    maybe i am biased because in my country people show a similar amount of ignorance and it’s just normal to me, but i think demographics is still a far better explanation than psychological analysis.

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      Yes, I saw a graph the other day which concluded America is technically a great place to be ‘dumb’, as even their 2 lowest literacy rate brackets have a higher or similar income (adjusted for cost of living) to the average income of the highest literacy brackets in the other countries.

      Not that literacy is the definition of smart - I know plenty of brilliant tradesmen and artists alike - but reading comprehension is an important part of politics and political messaging, and possibly why even with our own fascists in the UK, I don’t think we’d ever have a truly Trump like figure. That guy gets away with speaking like an actual 7 year old.

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      I didn’t mean for this to just become an America bashing thing, I edited the post, it’s more a problem I’ve only ever noticed with American clients, not clients from anywhere else, and not all Americans, many are fine. I would certainly agree that ignorance favours no one nationality, I think your idea about money and exchange rates could be it. I know fellow Australians who can’t afford to commission an artist even with pretty high salaries due to high cost of living, so they just don’t have the disposable income for it that an American with a comparable salary might.

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      It might have just been bad wording on their part, but it does remain to this day the dumbest thing I think I’ve ever heard from someone. They thought that a long drive across the desert would be “shorter” for them because they use miles and not kilometers. They might have meant that it would feel shorter since they’re used to long drives, but they also didn’t seem to understand that they couldn’t just drive across the desert (which is a trip that takes days and requires a huge amount of prep and emergency supplies, there’s nothing out there), even if they were used to long drives, so they might have just not understood the distances involved in driving across the country in Australia and thought the country was just much smaller than it is, but they were oddly hung up on the kilometres vs miles part of it.

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    I once knew a grown-ass woman who earnestly believed that, because seasons worked differently in the southern hemisphere, they were also on a different calendar, as though the equator were some kind of international month line.

    She was also extremely into WWE and got married fresh out of high school, so take from that what you will.

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      Eh I’ve heard dumber things, at least this idea sort of kind of logically makes sense considering time zones exist, if midnight means it’s night then maybe December means it’s winter. It’s the kind of idea I’d expect 10 year old children just learning about the world have not grown ass adults tho.

  • how an 8 hour drive isn’t shorter because we use kilometers instead of miles

    Um, let’s set aside the 8 hour drive part for the moment. Let’s just say… I dunno, 800km? It’s like 500 miles.

    800 is bigger. Naturally, bigger should take longer, not shorter?

    Or is the logic that the speed limit in km/h is higher so you can go 500 miles faster?

    I’m so confused. distress

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      I think the logic was that kilometers are smaller than miles, therefore a trip that takes 8 hours in kilometers will be quicker in miles? It could also have been something to do with the speed limits as well, maybe they thought that if the speed limit is 110, that’s 110 miles and therefore they can go much faster and get there quicker. Thankfully I was able to convince them that it was a terrible idea to drive for several days through the desert in a rental car with no water or emergency petrol or phone. They were from Texas, and so they were used to “long drives” which I think might’ve been a part of their confusion?

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      Every single year, without fail, some dumb ass yank gets pulled over by the RCMP for doing like 200+ km/ph down a highway, because they don’t understand the difference between kilometres and miles.

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      I’m going to get labeled as this guy at some point. I’m very inclined to resist incorporating unfamiliar technology in my life even if it’s extremely straightforward, and I’d probably end up fabricating reasons to justify that if someone pushed me too much without actually convincing me.

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        oh don’t worry, as a former tech worker i basically have a gun pointed at every machine in my house, so i’m right there with you. Just like, microwave waves are safer than cancer sticks lol

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    can i ask what you look for in a perfect client? when i’m commissioning someone (sfw or nsfw) i try to keep it professional and to the point or kind of match the artists energy (like i have never small talked with them but if they write more casually i will match it but keep a similar format of “This is perfect, please continue!” or “This looks amazing so far! Just a few revisions/additions: A, B, C” sort of thing). i’m autistic and new to commissioning artists so i’m still trying to get a handle on the social script really…

    as an aside i do get really worried that my casual (non-masking) writing and way of talking is viewed as very childish and i have been infantalized before (mostly irl) even though i’m in my late 20s. often times i’m bad at articulating even in writing. i tend to not really use proper grammer when not in a professional space (like here) and using capital letters can legit stress me out for some reason idk why >⁠.⁠<

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      As long as you’re professional and reasonable it should be fine, I personally would prefer proper grammar and spelling, but I wouldn’t hold it against a client if they type differently as long as what they write is legible and straightforward, that’s mainly what I’m looking for, clear, concise and straightforward instructions on what they want. Clients who are vague or non-committal to ideas are very frustrating. Sometimes it’s them trying to be nice by trying to give me more “creative freedom” but that generally isn’t helpful, since tbh, any commission isn’t going to be something I’m passionate about drawing, it is just for the money ultimately. I’m passionate about making people happy, so I want to do a good job, but I’d rather it be direct and straightforward rather than me needing to play a guessing game of what the client wants.

      Both examples of what you gave when seeing a sketch/early draft sound fine, being direct and honest is always the best, especially early on in a commission. Redoing a sketch takes minutes, redoing an inked or coloured picture can take hours, and redoing a finished fully shaded picture can take days. I’d much rather a client say early in the process “this isn’t quite what I wanted, can we try doing X instead?” instead of just pretending they like it and then asking for much bigger changes later in the commission. Don’t be afraid to make it clear what you want. Artists aren’t judging your tastes.

      I’m mostly venting here rather than addressing clients directly because I wouldn’t want my clients to feel uncomfortable when I’m talking to them, I always try to be friendly and welcoming to clients, which is probably why I get so many clients who are very eager to talk about things completely unrelated to the commission. It’s less of just a childish way of typing and more a childish way of treating the commission, some clients will be very vague and I’ll ask them what they want to see in the picture and they’ll give unhelpful one word answers or massive walls of redundant text (usually the same clients doing both), it’s my job to draw art for people, not to decipher their riddles or help them to learn to communicate, which I know is a little callous of me to say, but unfortunately I can’t spend all week on a single commission because the client doesn’t know how to articulate what they want, because I have bills to pay, I wish I could be nicer and more patient, but I can’t draw anything for people if I’m homeless.

      The fact that you’re concerned about trying to be articulate and trying to make sure you’re doing a good job as a client already puts you head and shoulders above most tbh, even if you’re a little unclear if you ordered a commission it does sound like you’d be very quick to clear up any issues, which is more than enough.

      TBH, a perfect client would probably be someone who asks for clear and straightforward ideas that are in my usual skillset and allow me to get the work done quickly and effectively, and then also are consistent with their requests so I have more reliable income. I know in the original post I was talking pretty negatively about clients, but this was two examples after years of doing this, 99% of clients are fine, it’s only a small few who cause problems, and if you’re concerned about causing problems and want to avoid it, you’re already not a part of that small group.