• minorkeys@lemmy.world
    6·
    7時間前

    Interesting that her partner isn’t Lebron James in the analogy. He also needs a team to win so she could have said, even Lebon James needs team mates to win the game. But she didn’t, she relegated her partner to the less valuable role, wonder what that choice indicates…

    • AreaSIX @lemmy.zip
      17·
      7時間前

      A joke, it indicates a joke made by a stand up. You know, comedy. It’s not a confession of deeply held beliefs, jfc.

        • absentbird@lemmy.world
          1·
          4分前

          It’s funny because some guys get mad about a woman using a vibrator, but would be thrilled to give LeBron an assist.

          They have no problem being cooperative in some settings, but in the bedroom feel like it’s a solo performance.

          It’s especially funny because sex, of all things, is basically defined by the cooperative nature; you aren’t there to win points, you’re just trying to have a good time.

          So in summary, it’s funny because it reverses expectations; the imaginary partner like cooperating in a competitive scenario, but gets competitive in a cooperative one.

  • Aljernon@lemmy.today
    22·
    16時間前

    Too many guys take it as a swipe at their ability to please their partner when a woman needing a vibrator typically has zero to do with his ability to get her off and everything to do with her ability to get off.

  • humorlessrepost@lemmy.worldEnglish
    13·
    17時間前

    I’m not emasculated by it, and very much enjoy it. Hitachi magic wands are so much fun. Thrusting rabbits are a delight.

    But….

    The ones that are realistic penis replicas….

    I get a bit turned off looking down and seeing a veiny flesh-colored penis in my hand. Just kinda takes me out of the moment. If I were bi, I’m sure it’d be lovely. But it’s just not for me.

    • weaselsrippedmyflesh@lemmy.pt
      1·
      59分前

      There’s always something for everyone and not everyone is into everything. As long as there’s consent, respect for needs and boundaries, and communication, no one ever needs to feel innadequate in the bedroom.

  • Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca
    51·
    1日前

    Sometimes you just don’t have time. Like, brother… Come on… I’m almost 40. It’s not as easy to jackhammer my wife at the perfect angle for 25 straight minutes anymore. It’s better for everyone, her included, if she helps rub that shit out and we can both be asleep by 10pm. We have work tomorrow, and you know our daughter’s going to come pitter-pattering in here at 4:30am to say she’s hungry because she couldn’t be fucked to eat more than two beans and a half a chicken tender the night prior.

    • boonhet@sopuli.xyz
      25·
      1日前

      Plus if you’re the type to get more satisfaction from your partner’s pleasure than your own (which I’m hoping goes for everyone reading this), if toys help her come more times, why wouldn’t you do it? I know I always enjoyed it more that way, SHE was the one who didn’t want it too often lol

      • dellish@lemmy.world
        5·
        5時間前

        Try being a parent before judging one. Everything here rings true to someone with a young child and bills to pay.

      • Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca
        8·
        13時間前

        Thanks for letting me know what that sounded like. Next time I’ll add an /s at the end so that the dim individuals among us (not you, of course…) can more easily recognize humor on a sub that’s devoted to it.

  • DefederateLemmyMl@feddit.nl
    32·
    1日前

    Wonder how she’d feel if instead of her needing a physical aid, it would be him needing a visual aid.

    It’s like, if Mia Khalifa is on your team … Are you mad that she scored more points than you?

    • IronBird@lemmy.world
      14·
      22時間前

      they are different senses, doesn’t really work as an analogy

      a super tight fleshlight would probably work better, which can also vibrate

      • DefederateLemmyMl@feddit.nl
        13·
        21時間前

        they are different senses, doesn’t really work as an analogy

        It works just fine. Men tend to be more visually oriented, for women the physical part is often the limiting factor to reach a climax.

        In both cases something external is added to get over the other party’s “inadequacies”.

      • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
        4·
        21時間前

        Dont even need that, plenty of dudes have issues where they prefer porn and masturbation to intimacy with their partner.

        • IronBird@lemmy.world
          2·
          19時間前

          i dont have a partner, but i am (trying) to get over a porn/masturbation addiction myself right now…it’s…way tougher than it feels like it should be, but then i guess really thinking back it’s an addiction i’v had nearly 15+ years now.

          so i guess it’s no surprise some people have that issue continue while being in relationship

          • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
            2·
            6時間前

            Its a much bigger societal problem than people want to admit. Good on you for admitting its an addiction, being aware of negative consequences is a big part of overcoming something. There are support groups for this stuff and it can help to have people who you can talk to that yoy might be embarrassed to talk to friends and family about.

  • Ougie@lemmy.world
    6·
    21時間前

    It’s always funny to hear people who’ve never been part of a team speaking about team sports. Jenny thinks it’s fun to pass the ball to Lebron and watch him dunk - the few minutes you’re not on the bench that is 😂 It’s not about just winning, it’s about winning well. Joga bonito Jenny, I’d rather fuck the wall.

    • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      4·
      13時間前

      Jenny thinks it’s fun to pass the ball to Lebron and watch him dunk - the few minutes you’re not on the bench that is 😂

      What are you talking about? Assists are absolutely a great feeling when playing basketball. And, for that matter, so are wide-open shots you score in plays made possible by teammates’ contribution: good passing, pick setting, etc.

      And I’ve never played at a level where alley oops are possible, but I kinda wish that I could’ve.

      • Ougie@lemmy.world
        1·
        10時間前

        Absolutely true, but assists are just one facet of the game, even greats like Nash in basketball or Pirlo in football whose passing was what made them famous, did everything else too. Imho being able to visualize the entire court/pitch etc and to create plays requires the highest level of mastery, it’s absolutely amazing to watch and the few times I was able to pull something like that off, it’s a better feeling than scoring. That being said, this doesn’t translate well to the sex with a vibrator scenario because it’s not quite a team game. It’s an inanimate fucking object that your partner prefers to you. You’re not Steve Nash opening the play for your team, you’re the ball boy.

  • Pika@rekabu.ruEnglish
    50·
    1日前

    She took a perfectly fine point (toys can be used in sex and enrich the play)…and then formulated in a way that would indeed be off-putting to plenty of guys.

    Toys should not become LeBron James of your sex, “earning more points” and leaving partner on the sideline. They should be useful assistants at reaching the peak pleasure.

    As long as the point is “my partner can drive me even hornier with this” - it is super healthy and great. But when the toy itself becomes the focus, it’s not great. She could masturbate much to the same success.

    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      2時間前

      Comedians often take things to the extreme for comedic effect. If that were the case, the vibrator wouldn’t literally be LeBron James, but maybe Karl Mslone, who is made way better with John Stockton (the vib, if it wasn’t obvious) setting him up.

      Too bad there’s no way to know, like a community name or the person’s name in the image itself…

    • Soulg@ani.socialEnglish
      11·
      1日前

      Even if it was the case that the vibrator did more heavy lifting in any given encounter I certainly wouldn’t want to be told in this way

  • mavu@discuss.tchncs.de
    12·
    1日前

    See, men are told by movies and stories that they need to be “the hero” (singular) not “best team player” or “important helper”. nope. main character or bust.

  • PieMePlenty@lemmy.world
    14·
    1日前

    She gets hers and he gets his. Wheres the problem?
    Maybe ask her if you can do anything to replace the vibrator and when she says you can vibrate her clit with your dick at 50 Hz, you tell her to just use the vibrator.

    • Fleur_@aussie.zone
      4·
      1日前

      Perhaps his is making his partner climax on his own. I don’t think it has to be an emasculation thing I think the idea that you and solely you are the thing that your partner finds the most sexually stimulating to be inticing