Fun fact, the G in Kenny G is for Gorelick. Though they don’t seem to be related.
I was hoping for a car analogy. I don’t understand baseball analogies
If you have a supercharger in your engine, are you mad that it produces more horsepower than you do, or are you just happy to go fast?
Nice ! that’s much clearer
Interesting that her partner isn’t Lebron James in the analogy. He also needs a team to win so she could have said, even Lebon James needs team mates to win the game. But she didn’t, she relegated her partner to the less valuable role, wonder what that choice indicates…
Don’t get too inceled by her joke.
Can I get disappointed at the underlying cruelty of making jokes about people’s insecurities?
A joke, it indicates a joke made by a stand up. You know, comedy. It’s not a confession of deeply held beliefs, jfc.
Then why is it funny?
It’s funny because it will trigger guys who feel emasculated by vibrators
It’s ok to hurt these people?
It’s funny because some guys get mad about a woman using a vibrator, but would be thrilled to give LeBron an assist.
They have no problem being cooperative in some settings, but in the bedroom feel like it’s a solo performance.
It’s especially funny because sex, of all things, is basically defined by the cooperative nature; you aren’t there to win points, you’re just trying to have a good time.
So in summary, it’s funny because it reverses expectations; the imaginary partner like cooperating in a competitive scenario, but gets competitive in a cooperative one.
People have different preferences in different situations, is that a bad thing somehow?
Too many guys take it as a swipe at their ability to please their partner when a woman needing a vibrator typically has zero to do with his ability to get her off and everything to do with her ability to get off.
I don’t even understand why this is an issue. If I get her off using a vibrator, I’m taking the W. Getting intimidated by a hunk of plastic is weird.
Some dudes are REAL insecure
I look at it like I have less work to do and she enjoys it more.
I’m not emasculated by it, and very much enjoy it. Hitachi magic wands are so much fun. Thrusting rabbits are a delight.
But….
The ones that are realistic penis replicas….
I get a bit turned off looking down and seeing a veiny flesh-colored penis in my hand. Just kinda takes me out of the moment. If I were bi, I’m sure it’d be lovely. But it’s just not for me.
There’s always something for everyone and not everyone is into everything. As long as there’s consent, respect for needs and boundaries, and communication, no one ever needs to feel innadequate in the bedroom.
I would love to listen to a female comedian that doesn’t just joke about getting laid.
Sometimes you just don’t have time. Like, brother… Come on… I’m almost 40. It’s not as easy to jackhammer my wife at the perfect angle for 25 straight minutes anymore. It’s better for everyone, her included, if she helps rub that shit out and we can both be asleep by 10pm. We have work tomorrow, and you know our daughter’s going to come pitter-pattering in here at 4:30am to say she’s hungry because she couldn’t be fucked to eat more than two beans and a half a chicken tender the night prior.
Plus if you’re the type to get more satisfaction from your partner’s pleasure than your own (which I’m hoping goes for everyone reading this), if toys help her come more times, why wouldn’t you do it? I know I always enjoyed it more that way, SHE was the one who didn’t want it too often lol
Should be able to elicit an orgasm with oral in far less than 40 minutes.
Sure, if your SO is into it. Many aren’t.
Also, it’s not one or the other, variety is good.
Well, people arent immutable, and romance and intimacy develops over time. I’d say a guy or girl who needs very specific conditions to orgasm has some intimacy issues. I’d imagine people might not want to be with people who have hangups like that.
Oh my bad, sorry, I meant to say everyone’s perfect the way they are, of course.
You really sound like one of these boomers that don’t like their families.
Try being a parent before judging one. Everything here rings true to someone with a young child and bills to pay.
Yup, I love them, but their whining can get real old.
Thanks for letting me know what that sounded like. Next time I’ll add an /s at the end so that the dim individuals among us (not you, of course…) can more easily recognize humor on a sub that’s devoted to it.
Wonder how she’d feel if instead of her needing a physical aid, it would be him needing a visual aid.
It’s like, if Mia Khalifa is on your team … Are you mad that she scored more points than you?
The nuance I feel you might be overlooking is your so-called visual aid is just someone else’s hot bod (as much as it is mostly artificial) and it might signal to your partner that you don’t find her physique attractive enough, whereas the use of sex toys or physical aids as you put it would be your partner’s way of signaling that her pleasure is not exclusively centered on your penis or its size. Even in phallic shaped toys designed for penetration, there’s always something else reputable manufacturers include, be it vibration, texture, shape, simultaneous clitoral stimulation, suction, etc. And none of these are meant to substitute your own physique and the intimacy you bring to the table (or the bed, or the couch, or the shower hehe).
I think the poster below makes a good point that toys designed for men such as fleshlights would be a more apt comparison. And the reverse for the example you provide would be something akin to needing the visual aid of Johnny Sins to get off. If we were to talk about getting off during your little lovemaking session by the chemistry and the fantasy on screen in porn - and both parties were ok with and equally excited by it -, then I’d also find no issue with that (albeit, I do think there are healthier ways to go about).
When it comes to sex, it all eventually comes down to communication and respect. And if your boundaries to feeling comfortable draw a line against using sex toys, then that’s you and your partner needs to respect your feelings as well. I just feel like it’s a shame if people are missing out, because their own insecurities equate a dildo or a vibrator (or whatever) to a substitute for your penis, your body, and your active role during sexy times, because they definitely are not.
If the guy has trouble reaching orgasm, sure. But in most straight relationships I’m familiar with it tends to go the other way, where the female partner needs more help to finish.
An e-bike wouldn’t do much for Jonas Vingegaard, but it can be a game changer for someone who struggles with gentle hills.
in most straight relationships I’m familiar with
So because it doesn’t happen to you, it doesn’t happen to anyone. Ok.
It’s probably a little bit rarer than the other way around, but male anorgasmia exists especially as men get older.
But as usual, male feelings and sexual problems are ridiculed and swept under the rug as unimportant.
they are different senses, doesn’t really work as an analogy
a super tight fleshlight would probably work better, which can also vibrate
they are different senses, doesn’t really work as an analogy
It works just fine. Men tend to be more visually oriented, for women the physical part is often the limiting factor to reach a climax.
In both cases something external is added to get over the other party’s “inadequacies”.
Dont even need that, plenty of dudes have issues where they prefer porn and masturbation to intimacy with their partner.
i dont have a partner, but i am (trying) to get over a porn/masturbation addiction myself right now…it’s…way tougher than it feels like it should be, but then i guess really thinking back it’s an addiction i’v had nearly 15+ years now.
so i guess it’s no surprise some people have that issue continue while being in relationship
Its a much bigger societal problem than people want to admit. Good on you for admitting its an addiction, being aware of negative consequences is a big part of overcoming something. There are support groups for this stuff and it can help to have people who you can talk to that yoy might be embarrassed to talk to friends and family about.
She took a perfectly fine point (toys can be used in sex and enrich the play)…and then formulated in a way that would indeed be off-putting to plenty of guys.
Toys should not become LeBron James of your sex, “earning more points” and leaving partner on the sideline. They should be useful assistants at reaching the peak pleasure.
As long as the point is “my partner can drive me even hornier with this” - it is super healthy and great. But when the toy itself becomes the focus, it’s not great. She could masturbate much to the same success.
Comedians often take things to the extreme for comedic effect. If that were the case, the vibrator wouldn’t literally be LeBron James, but maybe Karl Mslone, who is made way better with John Stockton (the vib, if it wasn’t obvious) setting him up.
Too bad there’s no way to know, like a community name or the person’s name in the image itself…
Sure, but, while comedy can omit some nuance, this goes straight into the odd direction to begin with.
Eh, I thought it was funny. Most comedy should be assumed to be making a caricature of whatever the target is.
I respect that angle :)
Even if it was the case that the vibrator did more heavy lifting in any given encounter I certainly wouldn’t want to be told in this way
It’s always funny to hear people who’ve never been part of a team speaking about team sports. Jenny thinks it’s fun to pass the ball to Lebron and watch him dunk - the few minutes you’re not on the bench that is 😂 It’s not about just winning, it’s about winning well. Joga bonito Jenny, I’d rather fuck the wall.
Jenny thinks it’s fun to pass the ball to Lebron and watch him dunk - the few minutes you’re not on the bench that is 😂
What are you talking about? Assists are absolutely a great feeling when playing basketball. And, for that matter, so are wide-open shots you score in plays made possible by teammates’ contribution: good passing, pick setting, etc.
And I’ve never played at a level where alley oops are possible, but I kinda wish that I could’ve.
Absolutely true, but assists are just one facet of the game, even greats like Nash in basketball or Pirlo in football whose passing was what made them famous, did everything else too. Imho being able to visualize the entire court/pitch etc and to create plays requires the highest level of mastery, it’s absolutely amazing to watch and the few times I was able to pull something like that off, it’s a better feeling than scoring. That being said, this doesn’t translate well to the sex with a vibrator scenario because it’s not quite a team game. It’s an inanimate fucking object that your partner prefers to you. You’re not Steve Nash opening the play for your team, you’re the ball boy.
No issues… Sometimes you gotta think of her sister to finish so fair is fair…
See, men are told by movies and stories that they need to be “the hero” (singular) not “best team player” or “important helper”. nope. main character or bust.
It’s you’re not first, you’re last
Oh hell, Son, I was high that day. That doesn’t make any sense at all, you can be second, third, fourth… hell you can even be fifth
The real comedy is in the comments we found along the way.
Vibrators are fine but when I whip out the premium™️ silicone vagina / asshole combo with a high speed self lubricating vortex cervix and the 36GG BIG TIDDY™️ attachment with Alexa integration I’m ruining he mood 🙄
It has Alexa integration?
Her name’s Alexa, so that’s one way to think of it.
And they kick you out of the Walmart!
with Alexa integration
“I’m about to cum… Alexa play Despacito”
You misspelled El Sonidito.
It’s because you aren’t using the cum collection tray attachment, it’s a game changer trust me
This thread is insane 😂
vortex cervix
🤌🤌🤌
“Alexa, I’m close!”
She gets hers and he gets his. Wheres the problem?
Maybe ask her if you can do anything to replace the vibrator and when she says you can vibrate her clit with your dick at 50 Hz, you tell her to just use the vibrator.Perhaps his is making his partner climax on his own. I don’t think it has to be an emasculation thing I think the idea that you and solely you are the thing that your partner finds the most sexually stimulating to be inticing
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