the Fuck Zone is a real thing, it’s not rare that guys will pretend to be your friend and evaporate once they find out you’re not going to boink them or once they find out you’re not single.
This is such an insidious and harmful sentiment and it’s probably way more harmful for men, especially as it’s been used to persecute brown men.
Like, no Karen, you’re fucking 53 and I’m in the prime of my life, you should be sent to fucking prison for even thinking of me in a sexual context and then clutching pearls about it you fucking freak
I think it stems from an idea that since the incels are so deprived they would accept anyone so they think women should/would too. In reality maybe women are getting attention way more often, but it’s from gross (not just physical, but sex pest and whatever) people you’d never want to be with so staying single is preferable.
They would see this as being “too picky” and they could be with someone if they really wanted to, completely dismissing the reality that no one in their right mind should settle with some schmuck like me lol
you’re not wrong but just adding on, discourse around the (very real and mostly gender neutral) loneliness epidemic has been so badly degraded by the incel co-optation that this framing doesn’t even examine that loneliness =/= romantic loneliness (at least, not exclusively). more and more people don’t even have one (1) close personal friend. let alone goddamn community! (which, fittingly, makes it much easier to find both friends and romantic partners).
Society has latched onto the incel idea that women can have any man they want/never be lonely if they chose to because all men want to fuck them 24/7.
Even if that were true (which it isn’t), you can fuck all the time and still be lonely.
Pretty much, like I’d imagine the life of a sex maniac who can’t form connections with people to be pretty off putting.
the Fuck Zone is a real thing, it’s not rare that guys will pretend to be your friend and evaporate once they find out you’re not going to boink them or once they find out you’re not single.
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This is such an insidious and harmful sentiment and it’s probably way more harmful for men, especially as it’s been used to persecute brown men.
Like, no Karen, you’re fucking 53 and I’m in the prime of my life, you should be sent to fucking prison for even thinking of me in a sexual context and then clutching pearls about it you fucking freak
I think it stems from an idea that since the incels are so deprived they would accept anyone so they think women should/would too. In reality maybe women are getting attention way more often, but it’s from gross (not just physical, but sex pest and whatever) people you’d never want to be with so staying single is preferable.
They would see this as being “too picky” and they could be with someone if they really wanted to, completely dismissing the reality that no one in their right mind should settle with some schmuck like me lol
Hey don’t sell yourself short, but otherwise I agree.
But I’m 5’6", it would be false advertisement!
Wakka wakkaaaa… :P
you’re not wrong but just adding on, discourse around the (very real and mostly gender neutral) loneliness epidemic has been so badly degraded by the incel co-optation that this framing doesn’t even examine that loneliness =/= romantic loneliness (at least, not exclusively). more and more people don’t even have one (1) close personal friend. let alone goddamn community! (which, fittingly, makes it much easier to find both friends and romantic partners).
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