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yknow whats better than a polycule of 3 living in a house? a polycule of 24 living in a cool badass gay fortress
With gaybuchets
The mix of bodily fluids in that murder hole.
My ex-husband and I got into a poly relationship. He left me and we separated. He kept dating our third for a few months. They broke up and my ex tried blaming the breakup on the third instead of taking responsibility for his actions. We were kinda toxic with the third and the whole situation icked me out. I know I didn’t use a lot of pronouns but we were gay and the third was a bi man. He actually ended up dating a girl after our drama. I’m finally recovering financially from the divorce and I’m starting to date again. I’m moving out of my sister’s house tmr.
Hey congrats on the move! Sounds like a lot to work through and I’m glad to hear you’re looking forward, that can be hard.
Something something late stage capitalism undermining its own social reproduction by making monogamous patriarchy financially unsustainable.
Polygamy sounds amazing to everyone until they actually try it and deal with the drama like one person in the polycule only being there for another person and actively attempting to rip them out of the situation, with all the drama that comes with that.
Polyamory ≠ unicorn hunting. It’s always bothered me that people think of polyamory in such a heteronormative framing.
I never said it was unicorn hunting though?
It always bothers me that people seem to think that poly has zero boundaries, that it fixes absolutely everything in a relationship, that you no longer have to make any effort.
Unicorn hunting is cool though. Especially when you can harvest their previous blood.
I’ve never done poly, so I’m an outsider, but I wonder if those would work better when all people involved ‘stop’ their default relationships a bit beforehand, to reset it so to say, and agree all beforehand to start and treat each other then on equal terms.
Personally, I thought that a poly that arises from an originally mono relationship, is bound to have one of the three feel like a third wheel, rather than a true relationship triangle (where everyone loves all involved). And then it’ll dissolve.
as @TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone said below, a strength is that those involved could feel freed from the worry of “do they cheat on me or not”. i think it might be similar to an open relationship in that regard.
Polyamory has been relatively drama free for me for 6 years. Not any more drama than I’d have in a monogamous relationship.
I think it’s highly dependent on individual situations. Both monogamy and polyamory can be peaceful and delightful, or awful drama filled trainwrecks. I would argue that it is easier to have bad drama with polyamory simply because there are more variables and people involved, but it’s not inherently more dramatic.
Plenty of people involved in monogamy too, you’re just not fucking all of them. Or you are fucking all of them.
I find it freeing to not have to worry about my partners “cheating” or getting involved with other people. They found someone new? Good. They’re probably a cutie who I’ll get along with, even if we never get close with each other. Whether or not my partners love me or if we’re as close as I want is a whole separate matter from how much they love other people. There is still plenty that can go wrong in the relationship, but other people won’t be the issue.
this person gets it
the only downside is that once you figure that out most romcoms stop making any sense
Exactly. The expectation of exclusive love creates like half of the drama and jealousy
That’s why we have kitchen table poly. If everyone’s partners can’t sit at a kitchen table together, they won’t be a partner.
Polyamory*
Polygamy is something completely different.
Unicorn hunting just got a level up ._.
No such thing as unicorns on Grindr. Everybody is looking to fuck
I thought a unicorn was a woman and a man looking for a bisexual woman to join them? 🤔
The unicorn is the bisexual women who finds both of the other people attractive
They would be the unicorn hunters and she would be the unicorn
You know you can just have flatmates, right?
We’re too broke to entertain ourselves in other ways.
Right.who you bang and share your life with.
Where do you find a flatmate who’s willing to be third wheel?
Craigslist, inpatient psych, most riots.
Where’s the fun in that?
there is no sexual obligation, it isn’t ruled out either
Relationships fo also come wothout sexual obligations by the way, you’re not required to have sex with your partner.
But, as far as I know, it’s still the assumed default nature with intimate relationships. Do we want to change that?
lol
nothing like a healthy dose of sex to smoothen the discussion of who’s turn it is to order pizza
Gas, grass or ass. No one stays for free.
I’m paying rent, Dave.
flat sounds great
the billionairs want us all to become poly
Come off it they’d make it illegal.
oligarchs accidentally killing the nuclear family by making housing and childcare unaffordable
I’ve been of the opinion that it hasn’t been accidental for a while now. No hate against poly, and I’m not entirely sure for what purpose.
Maybe they want less introspective and intelligent people having kids (because they realize they can’t afford them instead of just having them on accident), so the next generation is more easily led?
I dunno.
The plan is making money and gaining power, everything else is just a side effect. Despite how concentrated wealth is, it’s still too decentralized to have unified plans. The closest you’ll see is the rich and powerful mostly independently coming up with the same ideas, usually just whatever leads to more wealth and power.
At the end of the day they’re, like us, also driven by the systems we find ourselves in, just in a better position than us.
I think they just want line to go up and can’t hold themselves back from trying to take everything they can. The current generation are wealth addicts with no self control who are incapable of enacting long term plans. They are so out of touch and lack so much perspective that they can’t even comprehend their own ineptitude.
Capitalists want high fertility rates so the price of labor is kept low, but they don’t want to fundamentally change things to make it happen. They invest heavily in conservatism and anti-intellectualism because it’s easy, but not only are the results lackluster, the costs are too high. Countries that haven’t gutted public education and social services have a distinct advantage over those that let private interests make every decision, as oligarchs make poor public planners.
In the long run, the rich will not only cause the downfall of wealthy empires like the US, but cause a surge in nationalism and an end to free trade. Even if they move as much wealth as possible to their next target country, they are creating a world where they are no longer as dominant because nationalistic governments will once again taken center stage. They will never have a better deal than neoliberalism, and as that very ideology destabilizes the liberal world order, they’ll lose many privileges they take for granted.
New nuclear family will be:
Daddy
Cougar momma
Sugar baby
Twink boy
Perfect, as the twink boy and sugar baby grow they eventually become the daddy and cougar momma. The they add a new twink boy and sugar baby. A completely self sustaining family unit. A poly dynasty
why does a twink have to grow into a daddy?
Home is where the twink is?
That’s way too many people to deal with on a constant basis. Ill go and live in a shack in the middle of deep forest.
Me too, what are they gonna do? Call the IRS?
More twink for me
Fair, all yours.
Better to invite another couple to live with them, then they’ll have four incomes, instead of a third wheel & possible homewrecker.
The term “homewrecker” needs to be retired, like, yesterday.
Yeah, total trad puritan BS mindset. Don’t know who downvoted you. Sexual liberation has yet to come to a lot of people, it seems.
“Homewrecked” would have more sense if every couple could afford their own home.
foresomes 🤤
That’s the spirit!
